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Wedding Bomboniere

Creative Wedding Bomboniere to Delight

Wedding bomboniere are favours or gifts that wedding guests receive on the wedding day.  Weddings as happy events that people like to celebrate.  Weddings also attract ‘good luck’ and everyone likes good luck!  Wedding bomboniere is as different as you want it to be, so create your bomboniere and delight your wedding guests!

Wedding Bomboniere Through History

Traditionally, everyone in the community shares in the good luck associated with weddings and in spreading the love.

In 16th century France, only the wealthy classes gave wedding bomboniere to wedding guests.   Small boxes to hold bonbons or other confectionery were popular bomboniere.  These boxes were often decorated with gold and precious stones.  Not only was this bomboniere valuable keepsakes, they were also handed down  from one generation to another in families as heirlooms.

Families of modest means however, were more creative with their bomboniere.  For example, In Italy, sugar-coated or Jordan almonds are popular as wedding bomboniere.  Five sugar-coated almonds are presented in a dainty organza bag or wrapped in fine tule, and tied with a ribbon.  These almonds represent the five wedding wishes: health, wealth, happiness, fertility and longevity.

Although the form of wedding bomboniere differs across cultures, the thoughts and sentiments are the same.  It is all about how you spread and share the happiness of your wedding day.  Cut the wedding cake and put small pieces in boxes or paper bags for guests to take home with them.  This is and old and delightful bomboniere tradition that is easy.  Wedding guests place the boxed cake under their pillows on the wedding night for ‘good luck’.  Hopefully, wedding guests experience good luck!

In the 21st century, people are more creative with wedding bomboniere.  Some gifts are practical while others are more sentimental.  Wine bottle stoppers, personalised pens, and even music boxes that play the wedding waltz are popular.  These bomboniere are available commercially, however they do come at a cost.

Personalised Wedding Bomboniere

Wedding Bomboniere Crochet Bells

Wedding Bomboniere Crochet Bells

Why not personalise your wedding bomboniere in unique ways?  Express your personality, hopes and dreams in personalised  bomboniere.  These gifts are heartfelt and add that special touch to your day.  The hand-made crochet Wedding Bells in this photo are delightful examples of unique bomboniere.  These little bells add a lovely touch to place cards or as decorations on champagne flutes.

Other popular personalised wedding bomboniere include plant seeds, small plants in pots, and home-baked confectionery, jams and biscuits.  Print or hand-write thank you notes and attach to these items.  Invite family and friends to gather, make or present these personalised items.  Not only is this is a great way to get everyone involved in the wedding preparations, it also saves time, effort, and of course, expense!

Why not share the love, good wishes and ‘good luck’ with wedding guests?  Make a donation to a charity on behalf of your wedding guests who then receive tokens such as pins or thank-you cards from the charity.  Alternatively, write thank-you messages to guests on place cards at the reception, or attach them to bomboniere.

Get creative and delight your wedding guests!

Are you ready for some really creative ideas for bomboniere?  As Brisbane’s Really Good Celebrant, I know a special couple whose families get into the really creative bomboniere in a big way!   Check out the carrot carving bomboniere  guests receive at the wedding of Peg & Pog.

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Wedding Ceremony Venue & Amenities

Does your Wedding Ceremony Venue have Amenities?

Does a wedding ceremony venue need to have amenities?  Picture this – You dream of having your romantic wedding ceremony on a cliff high above your favourite bit of ocean or landscape.  The wedding party is OK; you are arriving in a helicopter.  Your Guests (and your Celebrant, Photographer, etc are not so lucky.  They have to drive, or walk up a road that leads off another road that is quite a way from anywhere!

Look After Your Guests

Recall, you invited your guests!  They expect that you will at least consider their basic needs.  Basic needs can only be met by having amenities available.  Amenities include services such as toilets, showers, electricity, shelter, drinking water.

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Seaside Wedding Ceremony Venue

Your chosen wedding ceremony venue may not have amenities on site.  This does not mean that the venue is unsuitable for your wedding ceremony.  However, you do have to think about your guests and service providers.

Where are the closest public amenities located?  How do you tell people about what is, and what is not available on site?  This map of national public amenities is a good start.  You can check the availability of amenities in public parks and areas.  Even if your wedding ceremony venue is in a private venue, this information can be helpful.

As the Really Good Brisbane Marriage Celebrant, it is my responsibility to ensure the welfare, not only of myself, but also of your guests at your wedding ceremony.  One of my key questions is about the availability of wedding ceremony venue amenities.  I also ask you how you will be advising your guests about your wedding ceremony venue.  Here are some questions for you to think about.

  • How easy is it to get there?
  • Do we need to bring umbrellas?
  • Do we need to bring drinking water?
  • Where are the nearest toilets?

Your Guests are VIPs (Very Important Persons).  Look after your guests’ needs and your guests will be happy!  Happy guests make for a happy celebration.

Contact Glenda for help with your wedding planning.

You will find other helpful links and resources for choosing a venue for your wedding ceremony on the  Links & Resources page of this website.

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Wedding Ceremony Rituals & Traditions

What Wedding Ceremony Rituals & Traditions Do We Use Today?

Some wedding ceremony rituals & traditions are used so often that we expect them.  The ‘kiss’ is one of these traditions that we see in most ‘western culture’ weddings.  Consequently, we expect this ritual as a ‘must have’  wedding tradition.

Exchanging or giving of wedding rings is a popular ritual or tradition that is also a ‘must have’ in many wedding ceremonies.  Wedding rings are the traditional tokens or symbols of the loving vows made in the marriage contract.  However, it is up to the couple to exchange or give other some form of love token rather than rings.

But back to the ‘kiss’ and its significance.  What is its history?

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The Kiss Wedding Ceremony Ritual

It is a common belief that the ritual and tradition of kissing sealed the marriage contract for a couple in Roman times. The Romans also used the act of kissing to ‘seal the deal’ in any legal contract!

As time went on, the ritual of ‘the kiss’ in the wedding ceremony took on a more romantic touch.  Some cultures regard the wedding kiss as the ‘first touch’ between husband and wife.

In modern times, the bride and groom may hold hands during the exchange of vows, so the kiss as the ‘first touch’ doesn’t really apply.  Today, the kiss ritual most often happens immediately following the pronouncement of the couple as husband and wife.  The kiss is still regarded as ‘sealing the union’ between the bride and groom in today’s wedding ceremonies.

Be creative with rituals!  Express your personality in your wedding ceremony.  As a Brisbane Marriage Celebrant, I am very happy to include the rituals and traditions of your choice in your wedding ceremony.  Check out the information about wedding ceremony rituals and traditions on the Rituals page of this website.

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Flower Girl Attendants in Bridal Party

Flower Girl Attendants in the Bridal Party

Bridal Party Attendants the Flower Girl

Bridal Party Attendants the Flower Girl

Flower Girls are delightful!  What is the role of Flower Girl?  Flower Girl attendants in the Bridal Party assist the entrance of the Bride.   A Flower Girl  is a great addition to the Bridal Party, and the delight is doubled when there are two of them!

Here are Pip and Pepper, those two-and-a-half-year-old twin nieces of the Bridegroom, Pog at Peg & Pog’s wedding.

Peg and Pog hope that Pip and Pepper will skip along happily in front of them as they enter the Rose Garden for their wedding ceremony.  However, Pip and Pepper have other ideas!!  The little Flower Girls take a shortcut to the Rose Garden.  After all, weddings are exciting and little girls like excitement.  Pip and Pepper race ahead and alert everyone that Peg and Pog are on the path!  The Bride and Groom approach and enter the Rose Garden on their own.  Pip and Pepper stand in the wedding area and clap excitedly as Peg and Pog enter. Everyone appreciates such a novel bridal procession.  This lovely touch sets the warm and happy tone for the wedding and everyone smiles and feels the love.

Flower Girls as Bridal Attendants

Are Flower Girls in the Bridal Party a good idea?  What do you really expect of Flower Girls?  Choosing Flower Girls can be a way to include young girl relatives and friends in the wedding.  The big questions are, “Do they want to be a Flower Girl?” “Are they old enough to understand what is expected?” and “Are they reliable?”

Pip and Pepper are two-and-a-half-year-old girls who do exactly what they want to do!

As long as the Bride and Groom and all other Bridal Party attendants prepare for anything, then it is a good idea.  Children are unpredictable however, and the chance of ‘different behaviour’ is very high.

Girls who consider themselves to be too old to be a Flower Girl have the role of Junior Bridesmaid.  The Junior Bridesmaid’s role is actually less complicated that that of a Flower Girl.  Junior Bridesmaids have a more relaxed time and do not have any specific tasks on the wedding day.

Will you include Flower Girls or Junior Bridesmaids in your Bridal Party?  Will you prepare for ‘different behaviour’ on the day?  How will you cope with unplanned events on the day?  What will you say or do when such unplanned events occur?  Keep smiling, treasure the precious moments on your big day and spread the love.

 

 

 

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Bridal Party Attendants the Best Man

Bridal Party Attendants

Peg and Pog consider who to have as bridal party attendants at their wedding.  Apparently, it is ‘traditional’ to have attendants.

Glenda, Brisbane’s Very Good Celebrant, asks Peg and Pog why they want to have bridal party attendants.  Peg and Pog haven’t actually thought about the why, they just think they should!

Checkout the various roles that traditionally, are included in the bridal party.

Peg and Pog learn that the bridal party can consist of  just the Bride and Groom!  The two witnesses can be guests and do not need to be in the Bridal Party.  Peg and Pog can choose whether or not to have Bridal Party Attendants. Bridal Party Attendants are optional.

Peg says that she definitely wants flower girls as her bridal party attendants on her wedding day.  Pog suggests that his nieces, Pip and Pepper are just right as flower girls.

The Role of the Best Man in the Bridal Party

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Best Man

Pog chooses his brother, Milo, to be his ‘Best Man’ at the wedding of Peg and Pog.  Milo feels very honoured to be Pog’s ‘Best Man,’ and wants to be the best, ‘Best Man’ he can be!

However, Pog is not too sure about the responsibilities of a ‘Best Man’, so he asks Peg, the blushing bride-to-be, if she knows.  Peg says that Palo’s role, as ‘Best Man,’ is to assist Pog, the Groom, get ready for the wedding.

Although Pog thinks this is a great idea, Pog is still unclear about what exactly the ‘Best Man’ does.  Peg asks Glenda, Brisbane’s Very Good Celebrant, for help.

Responsibilities of the Role of Best Man

The responsibilities of the role of  ‘Best Man’ vary, and depend on what the rest of the bridal party expect.  Glenda, Brisbane’s Very Good Celebrant, answers the many questions that Peg & Pog ask.

Pog learns that the wedding party is really a team and that he is not on his own on his wedding day!  Peg is happy that Pog’s confidence is lifting and Milo is happy that his role as ‘Best Man’ really means a lot to Pog.  Milo tells Pog that he is thrilled about his ‘active’ role in the wedding.

Milo aims to be the best, ‘Best Man’ for Pog.  Being ‘Best Man’ comes with very important responsibilities and Milo wants to do a great job!  Pog needs all the help he can get on his wedding day and he knows that Milo is just the ‘Best Man’ for a successful day.

 

 

 

 

 

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Wedding Ceremony Keepsakes – keep them safe!

Wedding Ceremony Keepsakes

Wedding ceremony keepsakes are those items that make your ceremony special.  Your wedding ceremony script, personal wedding vows scripts, and bridal favours are good examples.  Keep these precious items and the Presentation Marriage Certificate safe on your wedding day.  Those something old, something blue, something borrowed items, perhaps a handkerchief, a brooch, or necklace that you carry or wear for the ceremony are very special keepsakes.   Further, these keepsakes are irreplaceable.  Also, how do you explain their loss if you borrow these items?

Some Unique Ceremony Keepsakes

I take the time and care to design special wedding keepsakes for your ceremony.  These keepsakes are unique to your ceremony. Fortunately, these keepsakes are replaceable, for a fee of course. I photograph these keepsakes as a record so that if they are misplaced, I can replace them for you.

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Wedding Ceremony Keepsakes

I present the script of your ceremony as a scroll inside a cover, and I hand-make and decorate the sleeve that secures the scroll.

Delightful booklets contain your personal wedding vows and both the scroll and booklets reflect the theme colours of your wedding.

As a special touch, I hand-make a special keepsake as a  ‘good luck’ symbol.  This is a ‘surprise’ on the wedding day.

When do Wedding Keepsakes go Missing?

At the end of the ceremony everyone is excited.  Everyone congratulates the happy couple or gathers for photographs, and this is the critical time when keepsake items are misplaced or overlooked.  Small items such as keepsakes, and the Presentation Marriage Certificate are treasured items that are easily lost in the excitement of the day.  The Presentation Marriage Certificate is not replaceable and if it is mislaid or damaged, apply to the Registry for advice.

You can avoid the stress and worry of locating misplaced items if you prepare well.  After all, you want to enjoy those wonderful moments of your wedding and make beautiful memories of your special day.

Appoint a Wedding Ceremony Keepsakes and Documents Official

Here is a great wedding ceremony tip!  Appoint a reliable person as the wedding ceremony keepsakes and documents official on your wedding day.  This is an essential part of successful wedding planning!  Your wedding ceremony keepsakes and documents official is someone you trust to follow your instructions exactly!

Wedding Ceremony Keepsakes and Documents Official

Following is a basic checklist of instructions to give to your appointed Documents Official.

  • Identify yourself as the appointed  ‘wedding ceremony keepsakes and documents official’ to the Celebrant before the wedding ceremony.
  • Be available and receive the ceremony keepsakes and documents immediately after the wedding ceremony.
  • Check the contents of the envelope containing the wedding ceremony keepsakes and documents with the Celebrant.
  • Take charge of the envelope containing the ceremony keepsakes and documents, and
  • Follow instructions immediately for safe storage.  (specify exactly how, when and where.)

I meet your wedding ceremony documents official before the ceremony and check the instructions carefully.  Following the marriage documents signing, I hand over all keepsakes and the Presentation Marriage Certificate securely and safely to your appointed official.  You relax and celebrate the special moments of your wedding day with family and friends, confident that your precious items are safe.

Official Marriage Documents

Do you want to know more about Australian official marriage documents?  Do you know that the Presentation Marriage Certificate is not a personal identification document (ID)?  Personal identification documents show your date of birth and this information is not shown on the Presentation Marriage Certificate.  Although it is a legal document, it is however, not the official marriage certificate.

The Official Marriage Certificate shows your date of birth.  You purchase a certified copy of the official marriage certificate from the Marriage Registry in the Australian state or territory of your marriage.  This certified copy is a personal identification document and serves to verify your changed legal status as a married person.  Check out the Australian government page for the most up-to-date and accurate information about Australian marriage documents.

 

 

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Choosing the Wedding Party can be a disaster if you do not choose wisely

Who wants to be in the Wedding Party?

Everyone wants to be in the wedding party!

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Peg & Pog Wedding Party

Peg & Pog had to hold back the nominees for the various traditional ‘roles’ in their wedding party.  Of course they didn’t like to disappoint anyone, or in their case, any dolls.  Feelings need careful handling.

Peg & Pog knew what they wanted, and what they didn’t want for their big day.  Unfortunately, their ideas and wishes were not always shared by family and friends.  Fortunately, Peg & Pog, assisted by Glenda, the Very Good Celebrant, got the wedding they wanted.

Choosing the Wedding Party

This is the tricky part.  Members of the wedding, or bridal party are usually people who are important to you such as family and friends.  For those of you who are blessed with large, extended families and a lot of great friends, this can become a nightmare!  Whatever you do, choose very carefully.  Your attendants can make or break the best of well-laid plans.

Adults in the Wedding Party

Adult attendants need to be reliable and trustworthy.  Ask yourself the question, “How can this person support our needs leading up to and on our wedding day?”  After all, that is what attendants do – support the Bride and Groom in the planning and organisation of the big day both before and on your wedding day.

Milo, Pog’s brother, supported Peg & Pog in organising people on the wedding day and introducing Glenda, the Very Good Celebrant to the parents and the witnesses.  Peg & Pog had asked two adult family members to be their witnesses – Peg’s Ma and Pog’s Ma!  Both mothers wanted to be front and centre during the ceremony so that they got the full experience of watching and hearing their children say their marriage vows.

Children in the Wedding Party

Be prepared for the unexpected when choosing children as attendants!  Little ones may look ‘cute’ on the day, however their welfare is the most important consideration.  Expecting young children to walk down paths on their own is daunting enough.  Asking them to carry precious items such as ring cushions etc. only adds to their stress.  Pip & Pepper, Pog’s two-year-old twin nieces were fine as they accompanied Peg on the flower boat but as soon as they hit land, they took off!  Luckily the shortcut they took to the Rose Garden didn’t become a disaster and they arrived just as Peg & Pog were coming up the path.

How Many in a Wedding Party?

As many as you like!  Bride and Groom only if you prefer.  The two witnesses don’t have to stand or sit next to you, unless you think you might be given to an attack of the vapours and faint.  Oh, and it’s not an equal sharing competition either!  Just because the Bride has three attendants, it doesn’t mean that the Groom has to have three attendants.  Gender is not important.  A ‘Matron or Maid of Honour’ can easily be a ‘Man or Mate of Honour’ – the choice is yours.

More wedding party news later.  In the meantime, check out some things you may or may not know about Glenda, the Very Good Celebrant!

 

 

 

 

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Episode 7: Peg & Pog’s Rose Garden Wedding

Peg & Pog’s Rose Garden Wedding

Peg & Pog’s Rose Garden Wedding is Episode 7 of the micro-series, Dolls are Different…or are they? a pegdoll production.

Peg & Pog are to marry in the Rose Garden

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Wedding Rose Bell

Peg & Pog survive the ‘helpful’ ideas and suggestions for wedding planning by the Doll family members.

All Peg & Pog just want to marry in the Rose Garden where their love first bloomed.

Doll family members and friends have their own ideas however, and are determined to ‘help’ in making the wedding plans.

Before Peg & Pog know it, the Doll family members and friends take over (or so it seems)!

Peg & Pog’s Wedding Helper

At last, Peg & Pog find their ‘ray of sunshine’ in Glenda the Very Good Brisbane Celebrant.  Peg & Pog fear hurting the feelings of Doll family members and friends by refusing their offers of ‘help’.  Glenda, being the Very Good Brisbane Celebrant, listens patiently to their concerns.  Glenda guides Peg & Pog through ideas, options and practical strategies and smooths the troublesome situation.

Peg & Pog are reassured by Glenda’s wise words and the opportunity to discuss what they really want for their wedding ceremony.

The Rose Garden is abuzz with excitement!  It is Peg & Pog’s Wedding Day

Peg & Pog’s wedding day arrives!  All dolls (and bees) gather in the Rose Garden for a very special wedding ceremony.  Doll fashionistas strut their stuff, showing off their latest creations.  Doll kids run and play and chase bees, and Doll parents and family members and Doll friends chat and admire the roses.  Glenda, the Really Good Brisbane Celebrant, arrives and everything is ready!

New, fascinating Doll family members join the cast members of episodes 1-6 in episode 7.

All dolls and the creator/director/producer etc etc, the Very Good Brisbane Celebrant, Glenda J Ashleigh, hope that you enjoy Episode 7: Peg & Pog’s Wedding

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Wedding Tips

Wedding Planning Tips that Make a Difference

Use great wedding planning tips to make a difference!  As Brisbane’s really good professional Marriage Celebrant, I am often asked about wedding hints and tips for ceremonies.  Every ceremony is different, however some tips apply to all wedding ceremonies.

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Goodluck Horseshoe

We often overlook the really important areas of planning a wedding.  Some areas are so commonplace that we take them for granted and we hope that they will ‘look after themselves’.  We hope that we will have ‘good luck’ and that everything will go smoothly.  Brides often carry wedding charms or keepsakes such as a horseshoe to assure good luck on the day.  These are fun, however they do not guarantee that good luck will follow.

Of course you want your wedding ceremony to be breathtaking!  After all it is your special day and you expect that your ceremony will flow smoothly and be absolutely delightful.

Important Wedding Areas

Wedding ceremonies must contain the legal requirements, however just meeting the legal requirements for a marriage ceremony does not meet the requirements for an enjoyable ceremony.  Here are a few helpful wedding planning tips that I hope will help you to make your ceremony, simply the best!

  • Choose the people and services for your wedding ceremony very carefully. The success of the occasion depends on the choices you make.  How well do people understand each other?  How respectful they are of each other’s wishes?
  • Communicate at all stages of the process – planning, arriving at the venue, entrances, where people are required to stand, what they do during the ceremony and what happens at the close of the ceremony.  Don’t fall into the trap of “Oh I though you knew that…” or “Why wasn’t I told…” or “I didn’t know you wanted me to do that…”.  Keep everyone in the communication loop, including your guests.
  • Inform your celebrant of the arrangements. A really good marriage celebrant works with other service providers, eg photographers, event planners, directors and venue staff.  They encourage your guests to feel comfortable.  Everyone is there to help make this very special occasion a memorable one for all the right reasons.  Your celebrant has a big responsibility.  He or she is in charge of the ceremony!

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Episode 4: A ray of sunshine

Dolls are Different, or are they?

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Peg and Pog are swamped by suggestions from Doll family members who are only interested in getting in on the action, or so it seems!

Peg Doll star of "Dolls are Different, or are they?"

Peg Doll

Pog Doll star of the micro-series "Dolls are Different, or are they?"

Pog Doll

Not only do Doll family members push their ideas, but also new-found friends, such as the exotic Madame Noscova and the ballet class catch the wedding planning fever!

Of course, all dolls want to ‘help’ make Peg and Pog’s wedding the very best.

Peg and Pog feel completely sidelined!  Apparently their wedding is a community event and they are merely the bride and groom.

The Doll family and friends are so eager to lend their particular talents to make Peg and Pog’s wedding an event to remember, that they forget about Peg and Pog’s wishes. Peg and Pog look for a ray of sunshine to help them have the wedding they want.

A ray of sunshine

 Glenda, Brisbane’s really good marriage celebrant,  is the ray of sunshine the lovebirds are desperately seeking!

Glenda J Ashleigh, Brisbane's very good marriage celebrant

Glenda J Ashleigh, Brisbane’s very good marriage celebrant

Glenda, Brisbane’s really good marriage celebrant, listens carefully to Peg and Pog before giving them some ideas to think about.

At last Peg and Pog feel that they are in control of planning for their special day!

Peg and Pog have great fun as they start to plan their special wedding day!

Perhaps Glenda can shine a ray of sunshine on your wedding plans!

 

 

 

All dolls and the creator/director/producer etc etc, Brisbane’s Really Good Celebrant, Glenda J Ashleigh, hope that you enjoy Episode 4: A ray of sunshine